Chinkee Tan has inspired so many people to aspire for their dreams. As much as people are learning from him, he is definitely also learning from them. And today was a special day for him. What could inspire an inspirational speaker? Let’s hear from the man himself as he shares to us his eventful day:

“September 11, 2001 is an unforgettable day for America, but September 11, 2011 is an unforgettable day for me also.  Although I am active in the internet with my personal website (ww.chinkeetan.com),my Facebook and Twitter account, I do not put much emphasis on blogging until I had a close encounter with a momblogger, one of the most influential blogger in the Philippines. Because of this memorable event, she inspired me to start blogging again and how a small article can impact & change the lives of people.

I am dedicating this blog to all people who are commemorating for the loss of a loved one and especially to momblogger.

Noemi a.k.a “Momblogger” was my guest for the morning radio and tv program Chink Positive over at Radyo Singko & Aksyon TV.  She left an indelible ink in our hearts and mind on how she was able to overcome her grief when she experienced the loss of her 6 year old son to a drowning accident.

She had no one to turn to and even psychiatrists cannot even help and understand her situation. With no one to turn to, she went into a 4 year depression until she discovered on how to overcome grief.  Allow me to share with you her experience on how she was able to recover from this tragic loss.

Stage 1.

Shock

You will be in a state of shock when unexpected things happen in your life.

Stage 2. 

Denial

You will be in a confused state of emotion and you will start telling yourself:

“This is not happening to me!”

“This is just a bad dream!”

“This will just pass and it will get better!”

Stage 3.

Anger

Once reality is setting in, you are feeling resentment towards the situation. You become emotionally upset and stressed.

Stage 4.

Bargaining

You start to question and try to find answers.

“Did I do anything wrong to deserve this?”

“I am not a bad person! I did not do anything wrong to hurt another person!”

Stage 5.

Acceptance

This is the part where you realize that you cannot do anything about it. You are not in control of the situation and you learn how to accept it. The earlier you reach the stage of acceptance, the better it is for you to go to the last stage.

Stage 6.

Healing

Only when we learn how to completely surrender to the will of God is the time you can be healed. To understand that we are not in control of our life but God is. God has other plans, not our plans will prevail. Then that is time when we can be completely restored and healed.

After realizing that becoming a prisoner of the past and becoming a free person of the present is a choice. She chose to go through the process and move on with her life. Moving on for Noemi “It’s not forgetting the past, but remembering how yesterday shaped and molded her to become a stronger person today.”

Now she has an advocacy (which you can find more about in http://aboutmyrecovery.com/) to help other people who are grieving for their own personal loss, not only for a loved one but also the loss of a job, business, or even relationship, to be able to recover just like she did.

I would like to thank Noemi for waking up so early in the morning to impart faith, hope, love and inspiration to others to become strong despite of what they are going through.

Ibang klase ka! Mabuhay ka momblogger!”